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Mum-meeee! It’s not fair!

“Mum-meeee! It’s not fair!” How do you react when you hear this high-pitched, dramatic, desperate appeal from your beloved child? Have you been tempted to say  “Life isn’t fair” (isn’t that what your parents told you?), or tried to rectify the alleged inequality and found neither approach very satisfactory? Life is not fair! The first thing to teach our children is that things are not always fair. A brother gets his mother’s help with his homework, while his twin sister …

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Six steps to taking control of your life

Streamline your life and make the best use of your time. Do you ever get to the end of the day only to find you haven’t achieved anything that really matters or moves you closer to your goals? We know that success depends upon setting goals and working towards them. Coaching helps you to do just that. But we often fail even when we are motivated, inspired, focused on our goals and ready to act. Sometimes getting an exciting new …

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Alternatives to the naughty step

“It’s as easy to make someone feel reassured and good as it is to destroy that person” (Eleanore Phillips Colt). Many of us struggle to know the best way to discipline young children and have resorted to the “naughty step”, a well-known approach promoted by Jo Frost in the Super Nanny TV series. It involves making a child (age 2-6 years) sit on a “naughty step” for a few minutes to reflect on their inappropriate behaviour and then say sorry …

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How much screen time is healthy?

What parent has not asked themselves this question when confronting their child about a never-ending video game? It’s a very modern parenting problem. Most parents believe that technology and gadgets are good for children, aiding their development. But many parents, psychologists, health organisations and even governments are concerned about the amount of time spent in front of screens and the possible adverse effects on wellbeing and mental health. We hear of the associated risks of obesity, sleep deprivation, depression, poor …

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How can we raise empathetic children?

“Empathy is seeing with the eyes of another, listening with the ears of another, and feeling with the heart of another” (Alfred Adler, psychotherapist). How can we raise empathetic children? My wonderful local village school recently had “empathy” as it’s value of the month. It asked parents to talk to their children about empathy and how to show it to others. We know how vital this value is to our health and happiness and that of society. Studies show that …

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Homework! The fine line between supporting and helping

Is homework the bane of your life? Does your heart sink when an extended homework, papier mache construction project, some GCSE coursework, maths worksheet or history essay comes home? They are supposed to do it themselves, aren’t they? We know this but many of us are tempted to do at least some of our children’s homework. If this sounds like you, you are not alone. A poll of 2000 UK parents with children ages 5 – 15, conducted in 2016 …